The Nitty-Gritty in Decision-Making

July 19th, 2016 by Patricia Jehle Leave a reply »

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The nitty-gritty part of decision-making

Last week I wrote in my blog about making decisions. I want to remind you of one thing before moving on into some nitty-gritty advice about decision-making. Remember, I said it is easier to make a decision when you limit your choices, so start there. The sky may me the limits, but your brain deals better with between two and six options. Here is my blog from last week about the concepts of decision-making, if you have not yet read it: http://www.jehle-coachingexpat.com/2016/07/12/decisions-got-you-down-try-these-six-suggestions/

 

The nitty-gritty, some ideas:

Me, my values, needs and wants

Take time to think about yourself: what makes you tick, what makes you passionate and what leaves you cold. Would this decision some how go against the fabric of who you are? Would it enhance the person you are?

Also, you are given permission to say what you need and what you want. I write this, because some people have been conditioned to over look these things, and it is very important to take your own needs and wants into consideration.

 

The environment: my mentors, my co-workers, friends, family, etc…

What would the different people in my life tell me? Ask them, especially if it is an important decision. Remember you were not put on this earth alone; use the gifts you have been given in your various relationships to help you decide.

 

What’s the present environment? What are the options right now? Later?

What door is open today, at this very moment? What might be open in three, six, nine and twelve months? How long am I able or willing to wait to make a decision? Does waiting make a (big) difference?

 

Evaluate the consequences

  • Do a cost benefit analysis of the options, or simply list the positive and negative results
  • Scale the options
  • Look at the consequences, not just for myself, but for my family, and for my life, long-term
  • What would the consequences be in a year, in three years, in five years, in ten…?
  • Do I have enough time, money, energy, strength with what I have now? What will I have to give up? What is too much to give up?
  • If I look back on my life at 80 years old, what will I think of the decision, either way?

 

When I decide this or that, what happens in my inner-self?

When I decide A what does my gut feel? How about when I decide B or C? Where is my inner peace? Or if there is equal weight for either choice, try flipping a coin and then do what your gut feeling says (not on whether it’s heads or tails). In other words, use the coin to find out what you really want, and then do it.

If that doesn’t work, try waiting three days. Don’t think about it; just be – and then try deciding. Remember to “watch” your dreams; they may be telling you something, too.

 

Relax

Remember to not take yourself and your decision so seriously that you can’t make one. All decisions are part a of a flow in your life and though there are consequences for every decision, the hard consequences from poor decisions can be overcome and to some extent, repaired. So, make your decision, accept the consequences and start living. Don’t get stuck in the middle of the decision-making process. That’ no-mans land and we can’t live there for long. Remember, no decision is also a decision of sort, and not a very good one.

Maybe the best decision for you right now is to take a vacation, even from decision-making. A holiday, a vacation is on the horizon for me. Hopefully it is for you, too!

Enjoy the rest of your week!

Patricia Jehle

www.jehle-coaching.com

 

 

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